Your little girl comes home from school and you can tell something is off. She isn’t her bubbly, boisterous self.
Something is weighing her down.
You approach her gently and lovingly and eventually she feels ready to open up and share the heartbreak she faced today.
Pop Quiz: What do you do?
You can approach this delicate situation in one of two ways…
Version 1: You cross your arms and remind her that life isn’t fair. People are mean so she better thicken her skin in order to survive in this cruel, harsh, unfair world. Don’t forget to remind her that no matter how hard she tries, someone will be better than her. She can always do more to get ahead in this dog-eat-dog world.
Version 2: You embrace your little beloved girl and remind her that sometimes life isn’t fair and people can be mean, but it’s important to stay strong and true. You encourage her to be the shining light in a dark world because her spirit, full of love, can heal the hurting and fix the broken. Tell her you understand how hard it is in this sometimes cruel, harsh, unfair world, but all we can do is try our best from a place of understanding and love.
It’s way too easy to be your own worst critic.
When things don’t go right in your life, do you lay it on harsh like version 1, or do you gently speak to yourself like version 2?
I get it, the mean girl inner dialogue.
You hold yourself up to some crazy high standards. When things don’t pan out like you wanted or expected it’s not uncommon to beat yourself up for your shortcomings.
Don’t speak to yourself in such a way you would never, ever allow someone else to.
You’re such a…
Why can’t you ever…
Remember your inner child.
Speak to your inner self in a kind and loving manner.
What would you say to your child?
Your niece or nephew?
Your best friend?
Would you be hard with them, or would you be the picture of patience, compassion, and understanding?
Be generously patient, compassionate, and understanding with yourself.
When you feel bitterness and anger begin to set in when things don’t turn out how you expected, ask yourself, “What would I say to my loved one in this situation if they came to me for advice or understanding?”
Now be gracious with yourself.
You deserve to hear it too.
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:31-32